Dream:Painting is not a hobby of mine but I dreamed that I traveled to the house of my mother in Hawaii. I painted her a picture using oils and I worked for several days. After I finished, I went home to my family in New York. But when I opened my closet at home, I saw that my shirts and blouses were covered with spots of oil paint. My hands also started to hurt as if they were being hammered. At that point, I woke up.
My mother left me and my father when I was seven years old. I found her again when I turned twenty-five but she never really cared about seeing me again. Whenever I try to connect with her, she doesn’t return the interest.
Interpretation:
Based on your dream and what you say about your present relationship with your mother, you are obviously trying so hard to please her and make her appreciate you. You will even go as far as traveling to Hawaii and working for several days on an oil painting that she likes.
Moving on, when you find yourself in pain in your dream, it means that you are punishing yourself for some small action you have done in the past. Based on your dream, your hand hurt after you came from your mother's home. Could you be feeling guilty about something you think you did that resulted in your mother’s leaving? If you are, what could you have done to make her leave permanently, when you were just seven years old? Were you really the cause?
About the paint on your clothes, it is often said that when you find your clothes covered in paint in a dream, it means that other people have negative thoughts about you and that you are bothered by their thoughts. Do you notice if there is anyone who disapproves of what you do to please your mother and are you bothered by that disapproval? If you are, do you have to be affected by others’ thoughts?
You need to overcome the idea that you did something terrible when you were little that effects to your mother’s leaving. A child’s actions are rarely the cause. There are probably deeper and bigger factors that made your mother decide to leave. Talk to your father about it and do not punish yourself. Or better yet, talk to your mother if she's willing.
Also, it is okay to love the mother who does not want to return the affection. It is natural for everyone to love her mother, so keep doing so. However, make sure to be kind to yourself in the process. Love doesn't require you to lose your self-respect.
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How fascinating. I have little experience in this ability to interpret dreams yet I find it really interesting. Your experience in it must be great as you sounded wise and confident in your analysis. Thanks for the post (from a first time visitor).
Love is a gift that is given without the expectation of reciprocation. It is for the individual to decide to whom the gift is given. I enjoy reading the depth of meaning you are able to derive from the description of a dream. I have a couple of posts on my site that deal with some of the issues of love. http://securityforidiots.blogspot.com/
Very thought provoking post.
Thanks for the Dream insights.
Dream on....
albert grande
http://albertgrande.com
"Love doesn't require you to lose your self-respect." - Very touching post.
Dear seeing your dream I can only say that it is the insecurity you are suffering from. It is quite natural seeing your past history. In our hindu philosophy when we dream we leave our body and move in the universe sometimes we go in future and sometimes in past. I dont think you there should be any guilt inside you. To my opinion you are still in search of true guardian or love who can take care of you
take care
Dr.Nitish Priyadarshi
Ranchi
India
What a wonderful interpretation. My mother, after my father died at 63, decided to forget about her five adult children and just spend all of her time and energy on her live in boyfriend. She even went so far as to cut us all out of her will in favor of the nine grandchildren she rarely sees. Abandonment feels the same at any age and can haunt your dreams. Good advice and caring empathy from the interpreter.
Excellent. Can you imagine how many children just from normal divorces also feel like this?
Many people try to use guilt to force love, but it does not work. Free someone from all guilt and they are more likely to love you. A tie based on guilt is not love, but an obligation - an obligation that the person will try to shed as quickly as possible.
Very well written!
very good food for thought....thanks
What an interesting post. I really like the last line and will probably quote it many times in the future.
It's a nice and quite interesting blog! Congrats!
Regards from Portugal.
Hi Laura -
Great post. I would take a different tack on the dream which I hope you'll permit.
The dreamer has a few interesting symbols. One, of course, is the traveling, another the painting in oils, another the paint splattered clothes, and the hands that hurt "as if they were being hammered."
I think that guilt is definitely present - and so is creativity in the painting - we "paint a picture" of how we want it to be in our minds. I wonder if the dreamer has an idea of how he wanted (or still wants) his mother to be vis a vis him. Maybe he's trying so hard to please her, maybe he's just coming up with a fantasy of "life with mother". Hawaii, where his mother is, is a part of his "family of origin" - New York, where the dreamer is - is part of his/her "family of creation" - and the painting is a creation as well. So, since we don't know the content of the painting, it could be what I've mentioned above, but it also could be a picture of the dreamer's current life - the one he/she has created.
I think the idea of paint on the clothes can also have a positive spin - these were the after effects of the dreamer's creation. It makes sense if he/she worked for several days on a painting that there might be paint splatters about. In fact, the dreamer just observes this and doesn't say if there is any emotion upon seeing the clothes, so it could just be - "oh, I really did a painting! A creation!"
The hands feeling as if they were hammered really brings to mind the idea of the crucifixion. I don't mean this in a religious sense, but in the way the Jungians mind say it - one is "crucified" or "put on the cross" or "pulled in different directions" and made to suffer for . . . in this case, it could be for his grief in not having the mother he has fantasized, in giving her a piece of him/herself in the painting, or something else.
We have all had "crucifixion" times and the Jungians remind us to "hold the tension of the opposites" as long as possible to effect transformation.
Ultimately, I think this is a dream of transformation - but before that, grief. Grieving for the never-to-be-realized fantasy is difficult.
Hold fast, dreamer.
As you said, Laura, "love doesn't require you to lose your self respect." But it may require that we give up fantasies for the hard truth of reality.
~Laura
http://zentalfloss.blogspot.com/
Oh my you are good. I have always loved dream analysis.
I am adding you to my blogroll. I would favor you but Technorati hasn't let me favor anyone for days now.
Happy Dreaming!!:-)))))))))
Laura, you never cease to amaze me. The paint interpretation is so logical that it is a "tight fit." Over and over you seem to come down on these interpretations with nothing but pure common sense conclusions. G-R-E-A-T stuff. Keep up the good work.
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